What do you REALLY Want? Results or Excuses?

I deal with a multitude of personalities every day (some even seem to have a multiple personality disorder) and I run into many of the same patterns and issues with members and clients. And here is what one common issue that comes up often looks like:


Client: “Coach, here’s what I want- I want to lose fat right here (women grab the back of their arms and men grab their love handles). I also want to increase my cardio, strength and I also want to be on the same level with the most fit people in the gym. I want to be one of the top athletes here. THAT is what I want to achieve. Can you help me?”

Me: “I sure can help with that. It won’t come over night and it most certainly will NOT be easy. But we can do it. Here is what you’ll need to do….” And I proceed to outline a whole training and eating program for them. (Perhaps you know exactly what I would say here???)

Client: “Wow, that’s great Coach! Thanks!”

4 weeks later…….

Me: “so, how’s it going? Are you eating the food I suggested? Are you doing the training I suggested?”

Client: “well, umm, ya know….here’s the thing…..I have a real busy life and I decided that I would just keep doing training the way I always have 2 to 3 times a week. Besides, I go to Planet Fitness once or twice a week and use the machines. Don’t worry, it’s a “judgment free zone” and I never set off the “lunk alarm”. And I know that I could be eating better, but really, who has time to do that? I mean I am eating breakfast now about twice a week so that’s good, right?”

Me: “It sounds like you’re really ‘taking the bull by the horns’ on this. How are the results coming? Are you reaching that level of being one of the elite members of the gym yet?”

Client: “well, not yet, but it's still really what I want. What do you think I should do to get there?”

Does anyone else see the complete and total insanity in this????

I have continually gotten this nearly every week from various people for years on end and I’ve found that it all comes down to this: people are not really interested in results. How do I know? Because otherwise they would let go of the BS excuses and try something new! So it’s at this point you need to ask yourself this question:

Are you interested in results or methods?

If results are what you want, if moving to that “next level” is truly most important and really becoming what you want to become, then you’ll need to look for a new method. Yet most people simply will not do it. Is it fear? Sure. Is it being stubborn? You bet. Do these folks have too many control issues? To a large degree, yes. They need to let go of the things that are holding them back; the excuses, the justifications and the reasoning behind why they don’t really need to change what they’re doing. Because when they let go of that crap, they begin to get the results they want!

So again, I ask you: are you interested in results or methods? Because changing your method might get you what you want.

And I also ask: are you willing to make that change and let go of your excuses? And the only way you know that you’re truly willing to make that change is when you’re actually DOING the work. Otherwise you’re full of ****.

"To get somewhere you've never been before, you'll need to do things you've never done before."