3.5 Habits for the Holidays!!

What does the holiday season mean to you? Are you one of the folks that love the season- the lights, the colors, the gift giving? Does it mean love, joy, happiness and family? That would be ideal wouldn't it? It can really make this time of year special and meaningful. Yet not everyone in our society feels this way. Perhaps you're on the other side of the coin and you can't stand the craziness of the mall, or the crowds and you view the season as a hit to your bank account? (Although, we all feel that aspect!) Does it represent being broke, loneliness and frustration of another year gone by that simply sucked?

I truly hope not! I hope that you're on the more positive side of the coin, but if perchance you're leaning more towards the negative side this season, here are 3.5 Habits for the Holiday to make this season better than ever:

1. Attitude of Gratitude: For many people, this is an amazingly difficult task to perform. They usually have many personal issues that they are dealing with and cannot see the forest from the trees. (And this has become a habit for them as well unfortunately.) I am convinced that developing an attitude of gratitude is not simply a mindset, it is literally a skill that one can practice and master over the course of time.

One powerful and effective method you can do this with is to get out a sheet of paper and a pen. (Do not do this exercise in your head, it has a significantly higher impact when done on paper.) Write down everything you're grateful for: roof over your head, food to eat, clothes on your back, car in the drive way, a job, family members, friends, living in Colorado, etc. Keep writing until you get down to "all my fingers and toes, I'm breathing, I can walk, talk, see and hear." When you get down to the "small" stuff like fingers, toes, walking, etc, you'll see all the "big stuff" like the boat and the car is actually the real "small stuff." Practicing the skill of developing an Attitude of Gratitude can, over time, put things in perspective for you and make the holiday season a great one!

Offer: Want a form to fill out for the "Gratitude List"? Shoot me an e-mail and I'll send one for you to fill out. CoachJohnKyle@Gmail.com

2. Focus on Creating, Not Cash: I speak with many people who are not well off for the season, much less for the entire year. So when the holidays come around, this is a strong reminder that they are short on cash. So, if you fit this category, focus your time and attention on creating gifts rather than buying them. You did this when you were a kid, right? You could sit down with a few crayons and make a “masterpiece” couldn't you? What happened to all of that creativity? Well, life and fear of judgment got in the way, but don't worry, it's still there!

Take 10 minutes and just think: what would be fun to create for someone this season? Can you cook? Can you work with wood? Do you have something you can restore? Is there something that you're good at that a friend or family member could benefit from? Can you sing? Dance? Play an instrument? Tell jokes? By focusing on creating, not cash, you'll have fun, you'll be creative and you'll put a smile on someone else's face this season!

Offer: Need ideas on where your talents may lie to create gifts? Shoot me an e-mail and we'll see if we can't find something! CoachJohnKyle@Gmail.com 

3. Plan to Eat!: That's right- eat! Far too many of you worry far too much about all of the "eating" you're going to be doing during the holiday season, and I know why. You have no plan! Plans are not simply for your business, or achieving those next important goals. Plans are necessary for success in even the smallest of issues. Plans keep you focused on what you deem is most important in this subject (or any other for that matter) and insure that you'll take what is called "right action" in any holiday party.

So here's a sample plan for you to use: "I'll eat holiday junk food (pastries, cookies, pie, etc.) on only Friday and Saturday nights as well as on the Holiday itself." By having even a simple plan like this, you'll keep the amount of junk food to a minimum, yet not feel as if you're missing out. It's important to allow yourself to relax a little this time of year and indulge. Having a Plan to Eat can help you have fun during the holiday season, and also help you keep a healthy lifestyle as well.

Offer: Don't trust yourself? Shoot me an e-mail and we'll find a plan that's right for you this season! CoachJohnKyle@Gmail.com

3.5 Give No Matter What!: As a child most of you saw this time of year as a time to get presents under the tree. It was time of receiving and getting what you wanted- even though your parents tried their best to teach you otherwise! Unfortunately, I meet many people who have grown up, yet still maintain the same childlike mentality they've always had. As adults, you and I call these people "takers". (You're thinking of few right now aren't you?) Well, admit it, you fall into this trap every so often as well don't you? Hey, who doesn't love getting a present with a big bright bow on top?

The best way for you to change your attitude about getting is to give, and by giving I mean to be of service to someone else. So, whether you're 'into' the season or you're more of a Grinch this time of year, be sure to give of your time to some cause, or maybe just to someone you know who needs help. By spending time with someone who needs you, it is very hard to think about yourself and the problems or challenges that you face. Does your elderly neighbor need help shopping at the grocery store? Do your parents need help setting up their house for the holidays? Can you spend the day at a homeless shelter or something similar? Maybe it is as simply spending time listening to your friend who is having a serious crisis in their life and helping them stay out of self pity. Whatever you can do to give, then give- and you'll quickly see how when you give, you'll get!!

Offer: Holiday season got you down? Send me an e-mail and I'll help you figure out a few ways to put these habits into practice so that this holiday season is better than ever!! CoachJohnKyle@Gmail.com